Louetta's Lore

[IIC]

Don't get me wrong...I like a smile too...But I can't be ruled by it...IIC

[skiracer]

Don't get me wrong...I like a smile too...But I can't be ruled by it...IIC

Sometimes it's that age old situation where you both are catering to each others soft spots and whims while trying to entice the other person that you find yourselves liking the treatment your getting without knowing or realizing that the other person is playing up to you. Then the attraction works out to each of your benefit. The idea is to not let the other person know you know what they are doing but just enjoy the interaction.

[IIC]

Sometimes it's that age old situation where you both are catering to each others soft spots and whims while trying to entice the other person that you find yourselves liking the treatment your getting without knowing or realizing that the other person is playing up to you. Then the attraction works out to each of your benefit. The idea is to not let the other person know you know what they are doing but just enjoy the interaction.

Geez...You are becoming pretty profound in your old age lately...I hope Lou doesn't take what I said in the wrong way...I was just trying to say that while I enjoy a pretty face, smile and attentiveness...there is more to being a success than just that...Doug(IIC)

[Louetta]

That may work w/ most men...UNFORTUNATELY...There are many in positions of power that go for that...I know. But a REAL woman who wants to impress me does it with her mind...Put me in my place when I deserve it...Disagree...I love a LOGICAL debate...Sure, I'll admit I like a pretty face etc...But when it comes down to serious Biz...Personality, Intelligence, People Skills, Vision, Flexibility are far more important.

Obviously you are intelligent and probably going places...But thru it all just remember that if you get there by your wits people will respect you...If you get there by your looks/smile etc...You may still make the bux...But who cares???

Best...Doug(IIC)

I think you have to worry about yourself, not what others think. I got to where I am at this point primarily through effort with a little luck thrown in. Wits, pretty face, etc., help but you need to try.

[Louetta]

OUCH! I think you learned the wrong lesson. We aren't so dumb to not realize when manipulation is trying to be used on us. I dated a girl who thought that this is all she had to do... we didn't last very long. I think that I am a fairly regular guy, so I'll just tell you what guys really want in their women:

Honesty
Morality
Confidence
Humor
Thoughtfulness
a pleasant disposition

It's that easy for me. And, if you have these traits you WILL rule the world.

You're the second person who talked about what they want. We don't care what you want.

[Louetta]

Lou,
You should try skiing. It reguires muscle tone, stamina, and a certain bravado to maintain a decent level. That means that you have to keep the body in shape and tone, and that will give you reason and purpose to do that. Plus the exilaration of flowing down the mountain effortlessly. Then there is the "apres ski" which is the icing on the cake after a day on the slopes. And you never know when you might get snowed in and not be able to get back home and have to stay a day or two longer than your planned day trip. That's my favorite after the actual skiing.

Good sport I'm sure. I fell in with a swimming crowd early.

[Louetta]

I love being manipulated once in a while. Or more often. It is fun. As long as it stops short of being taken advantage of, of course. Or perhaps I just like a smile, at least the appearance of happiness, and attentiveness. I hope I can repay in kind!

Regards,

Karel

I don't see where manipulation comes in. Its more a matter of brightening someone's day.

[Louetta]

Geez...You are becoming pretty profound in your old age lately...I hope Lou doesn't take what I said in the wrong way...I was just trying to say that while I enjoy a pretty face, smile and attentiveness...there is more to being a success than just that...Doug(IIC)

I was talking about being successful with men...not success in life.

[IIC]

I was talking about being successful with men...not success in life.

Oh...Well, I guess I never really tried to be successful with men

PS...Don't worry about it...Best, Doug(IIC)

[IIC]

You're the second person who talked about what they want. We don't care what you want.

Yeah Peanuts...LOL

[Karel]

I don't see where manipulation comes in. Its more a matter of brightening someone's day.

Neither do I, but that was the way someone interpreted what you did, and I picked up the word. I am a bit amazed at what happened to this thread after your "lesson learned", which after all is pretty common sense and all about, indeed, brightening someone's day.

Regards,

Karel

[peanuts]

You're the second person who talked about what they want. We don't care what you want.

Louetta, you said that you could rule the world by doing a few things. I think you are wrong in your assessment. If you want to rule the world, you aren't going to do it with a smile, appearance of happiness, and attentiveness. It takes more than that.

But, then you say that you were not talking about being a success in life, but a success with men, in a post to IIC... I'll tell you what- you'll never have anything (rule the world, success in life, or success with men) with an attitude like this: "You're the second person... We don't care what you want" That's a little self-centered, eh? It seems that there is only one side to things- your side.

One of my father's many sayings is: "For any relationship to flourish, you must be willing to give 60% and only expect 40% in return"

[IIC]

Louetta, you said that you could rule the world by doing a few things. I think you are wrong in your assessment. If you want to rule the world, you aren't going to do it with a smile, appearance of happiness, and attentiveness. It takes more than that.

But, then you say that you were not talking about being a success in life, but a success with men, in a post to IIC... I'll tell you what- you'll never have anything (rule the world, success in life, or success with men) with an attitude like this: "You're the second person... We don't care what you want" That's a little self-centered, eh? It seems that there is only one side to things- your side.

One of my father's many sayings is: "For any relationship to flourish, you must be willing to give 60% and only expect 40% in return"

Maybe she is mad at you because you didn't show up for the move like you promised...Or maybe she's mad at you because you did???...LOL

[Louetta]

Louetta, you said that you could rule the world by doing a few things. I think you are wrong in your assessment. If you want to rule the world, you aren't going to do it with a smile, appearance of happiness, and attentiveness. It takes more than that.

But, then you say that you were not talking about being a success in life, but a success with men, in a post to IIC... I'll tell you what- you'll never have anything (rule the world, success in life, or success with men) with an attitude like this: "You're the second person... We don't care what you want" That's a little self-centered, eh? It seems that there is only one side to things- your side.

One of my father's many sayings is: "For any relationship to flourish, you must be willing to give 60% and only expect 40% in return"

It depends on who you are whether it takes more than that.
Its not self centered to respond to people who tell you what they demand of you that you don't care what they want from you.
Actually I already rule my little world. Part of that I earned, part of that I was handed.

[IIC]

It depends on who you are whether it takes more than that.
Its not self centered to respond to people who tell you what they demand of you that you don't care what they want from you.
Actually I already rule my little world. Part of that I earned, part of that I was handed.

Peanuts...Give it up...She's too much for you...There has to be some little girl in Pittsburgh that you can impress.

Geez Lou...You are tough (A compliment on my part)...But how 'bout we give Little Peanuts a Little Break